*sings* Just one of them dayyyyys, that a girl goes through…DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL.
Sooo raise your hand if sometimes you just wanna be small and nap for at least 24 hours? That has literally been how I’ve been feeling for the majority of this month. But it’s important to not let the negativity interrupt what you’re meant to do. I’m pressing forward regardless. & while in that same mentality, I’ve recently adopted the strength to not take things personally. Sounds simple enough, right?
But what does that even mean? We usually think of when someone is personally critiquing or giving advice. Don’t take it to heart, look at it in a constructive manner. We hear that often. Yes, in some ways that’s what I’m referring to, but it’s much deeper than that.
I’m reading a book called The Fifth Agreement and it has only solidified my desire for more positivity in my life. One agreement in particular discusses taking things personally and how it creates so much conflict and drama between humans. Not taking things personally will free you of that and here’s why:
The book explains that, “You can do whatever it is that you want to do, knowing that whatever you do has nothing to do with anyone but you.” Get it? Basically you’re no longer wrapped up in how you appear to others because everyone is essentially living in their own version of the world just as you are. You can’t live your life based on the opinions of others. As a blogger, that can happen very easily. You become either fueled or depleted based on your presence and impact through your blog traffic and social media engagement. It can be EXHAUSTING and leak into your personal security, if you allow it to.
I can’t allow it to. People’s opinions can be quite valuable, no doubt. But the truth is that there are FAR too many of them out there for you to satisfy everyone’s. Stop trying. Form some positivity in your own world and live there because everyone else is living their life according to themselves and judging you based on that. & when they do, don’t take it personally.
Lotts of Love,
// Top: Friday on My Mind Vintage (MY HIGHEST RECOMMENDATION!) / Shorts: Urban Outfitters (closet staple) / Shoes: I actually purchased mine at a shop in Budapest BUT here’s a Similar pair for $39! //